The BM20B(0.8)-34DP-0.4V(53): It's a board-to-board mezzanine connector — the 0.8mm mated stacking height and 0.026" (0.65mm) height above board set the gap between parallel PCBs.
You'll need fine-line traces between pads and a stack-up that keeps signal integrity through the mezzanine link. That gap is fixed — no adjustment if your enclosure has tighter clearance.
