The 9-146274-0: That gives enough reach to mate with standard AMPMODU Mod II receptacles without bottoming out the housing.
Current Rating and Plating Reality
Rated 3 A per contact. With 40 positions, the total current through the header is limited by the sum of all active pins and the ambient temperature — stay below 3 A per pin and keep the board copper pour adequate for heat spreading. For a connector that stays mated for the equipment's life, tin is fine. If the board sees repeated disconnect-reconnect, consider a gold-plated sibling.
Termination is solder to through-hole — compatible with wave solder or hand soldering. The insulation material is LCP (Liquid Crystal Polymer), rated UL94 V-0, so it withstands reflow temperatures without deformation.
